Fools rush in
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Men are always going too heavy too fast too soon. That’s the biggest complaint from women today. In so doing, men come across as desperate and too available, which is a major turn off to women.
So at what pace should men go and who dictates that pace? Ever since Adam and Eve, men have always been the aggressor. Men approach women. Women almost never have to or never want to approach men. Why would they want to put themselves at the risk of rejection when men are already doing it anyway? If she ever wants a guy, she will choose to flirt instead and get you to do the dirty work of approaching. That’s how it is in most societies, whether we like it or not, that is the reality. So by default, women have been given the choice of accepting versus rejecting and also the choice of setting the pace in any pursuit.
Since only the woman herself will know when she is comfortable to shift gears, we have to go very slowly with them. Patience is the key. When you are able to be patient with them, they will find you different from the rest of the other guys who are always going too heavy too fast too soon. Patience will set you apart from the competition. Let the rest of the guys rush in, turn the woman off and get dumped. We will not attempt to shift gears unless given cues to do so. Women will seldom tell men directly to go faster but they definitely show signs or behave in certain manner to hint to us she is ready to take things to the next level. When we receive those hints, she is indirectly approaching us to take things to the next level. The choice is now ours to make and the tables are now turned. If you have yet to realize by now, love is a power play. In order for the relationship to last, men have to come out stronger in the power struggle because women are subconsciously looking for leaders in their men.
So specifically, how should we go about this whole idea of patience and playing it cool in the beginning stages of dating? First and foremost, always wait five to nine days to call after you have got her number and between dates. Most guys predictably call within two days. But you are a cut above the rest. Secondly, you will only give her a call between Sunday to Thursday and ask her out for a date between Sunday to Thursday. In other words, never call her on a Friday or Saturday and never ask her for a date on Friday or Saturday. What’s the big deal with Fridays and Saturdays? These two days are only reserved for that special someone. She has yet to attain that status yet. You are always busy on Fridays and Saturdays, regardless of whether you are busy. Get the drift?
By the 4th to 7th date, she will ask you why you don’t ask her out for Fridays or Saturdays, this is supposed to happen if her interest in you has been increasing since the first date. Her interest should be on the rise if you have not done anything to turn her off since date one. When she asks that question, that is her first indirect approach. Ask her why going out on Friday or Saturday is important. Act dumb and make her reveal her feelings for you. If she refuses to, just continue taking her out on the other days. Only take her out on a Friday or Saturday when she asks you to.
By the 8th to 12th date, she will ask you where the relationship is going. In other words, she is asking you whether you want her to be your girlfriend and make the relationship exclusive. When she asks that question, ask her “Are you asking me to be your boyfriend?” -
But in your other post, you say if she's not into you, she's not into you.
Go slow also no use.
So how?
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Originally posted by charlize:
But in your other post, you say if she's not into you, she's not into you.
Go slow also no use.
So how?
Yes, this only applies if she is interested in him.
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All I know is -
One cannot live on love and fresh air alone.
Remember this principle and you won't go wrong.
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Originally posted by charlize:
All I know is -
One cannot live on love and fresh air alone.
Remember this principle and you won't go wrong.
I agree!