memory fades since broke up
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i just broke up with my gf not long ago, late nov.
It seems not both parties are willing to let go but what i did was respecting her decision. I did not want it to end but we both know, it's better to let it go.
We have been dating for 2 yrs btw. And i can say, it is the best period of my life. We are serious about each other but things just doesn't go smoothly.
But since the broke up, my memorises of our relationship starts to fade away. Within this 1 and a half month, i start to forget those little surprise we once came up for each other, not all but most. I'll not think about her if i'm doing somehting else.
But she was the one i loved the most in my life.
Why? Am i just another jackass or is it good for me?
But she was attached few weeks back, i was seriously pissed > jelaous. She made me felt that I can be replaced easily. But again, the 2years, we believed that it is the best part of our life.
i know is random, i don't really want an answer. Just wanting to rant things out as my previous clique now are closer to her than me. So in other words, i'm alone.
flame for all you want, i don't care already =(
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don't worry, i'm sure someone will appreciate you in future..
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dont worry... come for our outings lah...
just dont take the free shuttle service and you'll be fine, trust me.
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Dont worry, someone will appreciate you in the future.
When my ex gf of a year and 8 months broke up with me in august 2007. That week when we broke up, i found out she went to meet up with some guy to have ex with. So I was pissed from what I remember and went out with my friends to go clubbing the following night. Hooked up with a chick that night, the next day I felt much better. But still the memories didn't fade until 4 months later.
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Originally posted by hide_rr:
i just broke up with my gf not long ago, late nov.
It seems not both parties are willing to let go but what i did was respecting her decision. I did not want it to end but we both know, it's better to let it go.
We have been dating for 2 yrs btw. And i can say, it is the best period of my life. We are serious about each other but things just doesn't go smoothly.
But since the broke up, my memorises of our relationship starts to fade away. Within this 1 and a half month, i start to forget those little surprise we once came up for each other, not all but most. I'll not think about her if i'm doing somehting else.
But she was the one i loved the most in my life.
Why? Am i just another jackass or is it good for me?
But she was attached few weeks back, i was seriously pissed > jelaous. She made me felt that I can be replaced easily. But again, the 2years, we believed that it is the best part of our life.
i know is random, i don't really want an answer. Just wanting to rant things out as my previous clique now are closer to her than me. So in other words, i'm alone.
flame for all you want, i don't care already =(
time will heal all wounds. dun worry.
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you still have your buddies. they will help you forget about her, trust me i've been in your situation before
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dont worry dude. how old are you? if still young thn seriously dont worry too much!
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i am not really old but mature enough, yea, i;m not so bothered now, just that soemtimes will be damn pissed when i know things about my ex and her current bf. yea.
Its a long story also, we very close clique, got to know her when we are together. But now as time passes, they are more and more towards her than me, so i lsot my friends already. yea.
THATS WHY I'M HERE =)
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hey dude, time will heals... i know that's cliche but it will eventually. just allocated some goals in ur life esp career. i'm sure you will find a true soul mate...
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it good that you recovering fast. well, i am like you too... she find a new bf then you get urself a new gf XD. not quite appropriate actualli. Jiayou! hang out more with other friends =D
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here in sgforums got a lot of outings coming up one. just look ard n feel free to join us if you can
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Originally posted by sinicker:
dont worry... come for our outings lah...
just dont take the free shuttle service and you'll be fine, trust me.you just cant get over the shuttle service can you.
. im like smiling now. haha. -
This is call a healing process, different people have different ways to heal. But by healing and slowly forgeting it does not mean that we are a jerk. It just means that we are slowly on our way to make ourselves ready to go into another relationship.
Everyone is different, she heals faster than you did, but that does not mean that she loved you lesser than you did her. I know some people who can take 5 years to forget a 1 month relationship, and I know some who can move on from a 6 years relationship in a few days. It's a matter of perspective.
Keep the good memories, and learn why it did not work out, this is a new era and there are many opportunities out there. One fine day, when you suddenly remember the good memories of the 2 of you together but you do not feel sad but appreciate the fact that you once were together, is when you have healed completely.
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yr situation is almost the same as mine, my clique is now closer to my ex den me, as previously they was in the same class . so now they often go out together. in the past it was me going out with her. sigh. but that was 2 years ago.
but now im starting to let go already, starting not to think about it, just let it be a part of yr memory. although i take quite long, 2 years. but well.. it's never too late .
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Hmmm..this just goes to prove that the love between the two of you weren't that wrong enough and it is most likely to be puppy love which does not really last long. 2 or 3 years is really a maximum.
Don't think that she would be the one you would love most all your life=]]
You will certainly meet someone better that you would love more, that would be the girl of your life=]]
Time heals all wounds. So it is not surprising that your happy memories fade. When the both of you broke up, those memories most likely became a burden to you as they tend to make you sad and you will try not to think about them. As time passes, these memories will naturally fade.
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Originally posted by KaurexO_o:
Hmmm..this just goes to prove that the love between the two of you weren't that wrong enough and it is most likely to be puppy love which does not really last long. 2 or 3 years is really a maximum.
Don't think that she would be the one you would love most all your life=]]
You will certainly meet someone better that you would love more, that would be the girl of your life=]]
Time heals all wounds. So it is not surprising that your happy memories fade. When the both of you broke up, those memories most likely became a burden to you as they tend to make you sad and you will try not to think about them. As time passes, these memories will naturally fade.
I would rather those memories stay. It makes you what you are and helps you understand yourself better as a person.
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soul mate /= wife/gf
for fark sake, why soul mate must have to be a female =_=
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. . . . im on a healing process to. . . .
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You love her, does not mean you own her.
She don't love you, she has decided to look around. And found someone new. Wish her well.
It is natural to be pissed. It is not flattering, and that's that.
Move on.
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i also went through the same thing as u..but much worse..
my ex initiated the breakup..telling me hurtful stuff like how he finds that i am too childish (& that he only found out after we've been together for around 3yrs)
i was silly at that point of time..even told him stuff that i can try to be more mature..dress more mature in front of him..but he still insisted on breaking up
btw, the breakup was very sudden..just pop out of nowhere..
it was only a few mths later that i realised he met another girl behind my back..& the reason he broke off with me was to be with that girl =.='''
can only say that..i was extremly hurt at that point of time..kept having negative thoughts that "am i really that bad?" "how can he forget about me so fast?" "how can he get attached so fast w/o sparing a thought for my feelings?"
but..it is really true that time can heal everything...
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thanks everyone, i think i am alright as logn as i'm hanging around with others.
words from all of you are really nice and helpful. esp callan's. Read your stories and i found that i'm nth compare to what you had experience. thanks people!
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Originally posted by hide_rr:
thanks everyone, i think i am alright as logn as i'm hanging around with others.
words from all of you are really nice and helpful. esp callan's. Read your stories and i found that i'm nth compare to what you had experience. thanks people!
yeah...his stories kinda helps alot... right now, i'm very fresh in a relationship...it may be naive to say this but, i'll try my best to learn from others so that i can make this relationship last forever...i know i can never underestimate situations. anyways, hope you can carry on or do wotever is best safely... -
Originally posted by hide_rr:
thanks everyone, i think i am alright as logn as i'm hanging around with others.
words from all of you are really nice and helpful. esp callan's. Read your stories and i found that i'm nth compare to what you had experience. thanks people!
Your viewership is very much appreciated.
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jiayou and move on.
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move on and show her u can live without her.. When she saw u on street, let her see the new...