Defeating Depression Part4 PartB
Forgiveness
Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Y’shua said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. Matthew 18:21,22
The only way out of depression due to the disappointment of people is FORGIVENESS. Complete forgiveness and being willing to trust again. Unforgiveness and mistrust are a lot more dangerous than taking the risk of being disappointed again. YÂ’shua said if your brother sins against you forgive him 70 times 7, in other words endlessly! He knew that our loved ones were going to disappoint us and the antidote was CONTINUAL FORGIVENESS. Choosing to trust again is pivotal for recovery! It is better to take that risk than to live in the emptiness of constant mistrust. This is possible only if you trust God above men, because then you will know that He is able to heal you every time that people break your trust. What can keep us sane when people fail us is the humility to realize that we have also failed people many times and so we need constant mercy and forgiveness and second and third chances, so we are willing to extend that to others. Some people are too prideful, thinking that they are a lot better than others and they fail to see that they too have acted sinfully against others, so they do not forgive and refuse to trust again. Pride and unforgiveness will keep you depressed!
Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14
Disappointment in yourself
If you are disappointed in yourself, you need to process it, acknowledge it and forgive yourself.
Important Exercise: Write down a list of all the people that you have disappointed, including yourself and God. Write down all the promises that you have broken to yourself and to others. Go ahead and REPENT by,
A} Asking GodÂ’s forgiveness
B} Asking people to forgive you
C} Making a new commitment for change
Do not ever be afraid to TRY AGAIN. only found the formula for electricity after trying 10.000 times and failing. He never gave up and he did not see the 10.000 futile attempts as failure but as “10.000 ways how not to do it!”, finally due to his tenacious perseverance, he succeeded and due to that we enjoy electricity today!!! Had it not been for his positive attitude you could not use a computer, or read by a night light, there would be no high tech to speak about. Just imagine how much your life depends on electricity! So, yes maybe you are not going to succeed right away but NEVER quit trying!
FORGIVE YOURSELF AND TRY AGAIN, NEVER STOP TRYING UNTIL YOUR LAST BREATH! LIFE IS WORTH LIVING TO THE FULLEST EVEN IF THERE ARE MANY OBSTACLES!
The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. John 10:10
Disappointment in God
For the vision is yet for an appointed time. But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come. It will not tarry. “Behold the proud, His soul is not upright in him; But the just shall live by his faith. Habakkuk 2:3,4
Many, many people are angry and disappointed with The Almighty. The reasons for this are:
A} Expecting the Almighty to do things our way
B} Expecting Him to do it in our time frame
Both of them are called PRESUMPTION
Surely you have things turned around! Shall the potter be esteemed as the clay; For shall the thing made say of him who made it, “He did not make me”? Or shall the thing formed say of him who formed it, “He has no understanding”? Isaiah 29:16
Presumption is rooted in pride and in our own interpretation of Elohim-God and of His Word and Ways. We need to separate between the written Word of YAHVEH and His revealed Word. When He speaks a Word to you in your innermost being and even confirms it through a prophecy, then you can stand on it and believe for it, obey His instructions and wait UNTIL it comes to pass. Take into consideration that waiting on this word will test your patience and perseverance and it will most likely not come to pass when you expect it. It will probably come as a “suddenly” when you least expect it!
His written Word gives us many promises and most of them are conditional, in most cases you will see the word IF.
“Now it shall come to pass, if you diligently obey the voice of Yahweh your God, to observe carefully all His commandments which I command you today, that Yahweh your God will set you high above all nations of the earth. And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, because you obey the voice of Yahweh your God: “Blessed shall you be in the city, and blessed shall you be in the country. Deuteronomy 28:1-3
In other words, you cannot expect them to come to pass unless you fulfill His requirements, and even when you do {at least in your own eyes}, it will still happen in GodÂ’s timing and not yours! If you do not understand these principles early in your walk with YAH {God} through YÂ’shua, you will have built up frustration, anger, disappointment and mistrust in Him and eventually you will also suffer from some type of depression.
This is the dead end street I had mentioned before; it really leads NOWHERE, so the only option is to TURN and to find ANOTHER WAY. This other way is the way of humility and trust
Important exercise: Write down in what manner has YAH {God} disappointed or frustrated you. Forgive Him, ask His forgiveness for your pride, presumption or mistrust, forgive yourself, forgive others and begin a new lifestyle!
“God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor a son of man, that He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do? Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good? Numbers 23:19
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