Are u lonely overseas?
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plese describe yr expereinces in socialising overseas. Thank You.
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Lonely ? not at all.. My experiences in socialising ? hmmmm, getting hammered with friends and trying to get lucky ?
I'm lucky to have a huge group of friends here, we do almost everything from paintballing, golfing, getting drunk quite often, camping... etc etc.
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No leh, not at all. In fact, time not enough. So many things to do and not enough time. Seasons come seasons go. Every quarter do different activity and looking forward to change of weather.
Get a connection of kakis and do stuff that you all enjoy or like. Plus got work leh, or studies. And then si mi gui de ai DIY so beri busy at home also.
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Lonely.. only the lonely...
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If anything overseas is my escape from socializing Lol... I have wayyy too many social gatherings in SG so i am enjoying the peace.... for now....
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Originally posted by littlestream:
No leh, not at all. In fact, time not enough. So many things to do and not enough time. Seasons come seasons go. Every quarter do different activity and looking forward to change of weather.
Get a connection of kakis and do stuff that you all enjoy or like. Plus got work leh, or studies. And then si mi gui de ai DIY so beri busy at home also.
lol @ diy
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Why would you be lonely if you've bothered mixing with the locals? Most weekends I have to decide which bunch of friends will be getting my attention, to the point sometimes I just want to spend an entire weekend lazing at home.
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Where I am, it can get a bit lonely at times in the depths of winter, when the days are short and the cold weather somewhat inconducive to outdoor activities. Most of my socializing outside of work in winter is done with friends during the weekends and at the indoor shooting range.
At other times of the year, however, the longer days and temperate climate present more opportunities for socialization. I'll usually take advantage of good weather after work to head to the outdoor club shooting range, where members are apt to spend more time yakking and socializing amongst themselves than actually shooting, or I'll try to get some time up in one of our flying club's planes, with one or more other members sharing in the hours and cost.
Even if you're not native to this land, you should have no problems socializing if you are willing to adapt to and integrate with the local culture.
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actually isnt winter like the best time to socialise?
long nights = awesome clubbing nights. I don't much like the sun.
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Originally posted by 4Justice:
actually isnt winter like the best time to socialise?
long nights = awesome clubbing nights. I don't much like the sun.
For better or worse, I don't drink, and consequently am not active in the clubbing scene.If I can't socialize as much in winter, there are usually enough things to do around the house anyway, including working on my firearms and handloading ammo.
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Oh well I suppose having a sociable hobby like airsofting helps XD.
As for clubbing, its the music that gets me going, alcohol or not.
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Originally posted by 4Justice:
Oh well I suppose having a sociable hobby like airsofting helps XD.
As for clubbing, its the music that gets me going, alcohol or not.
Now, if they had a club here that played wall-to-wall Barry Manilow music non-stop, I might consider going there.
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Originally posted by Meia Gisborn:
Now, if they had a club here that played wall-to-wall Barry Manilow music non-stop, I might consider going there.
You'd be the only one. Everyone else'd have blown their brains out an hour into it. No make that 10 mins into the night. -
i in singapore already lonely till wanna ki siao liao, don dare to imagine days aboard being alone man.
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lonely? ya... but... that's when u are really alone and start thinking about ur life.... and drink drink beer... and enjoy the sadness of life............ u can see it in those eyes........ those eyes that only a real man will have...
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if u're lonely in singapore u might wanna think about why nobody wants to be yr friend
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Lonely loh... thats why in Sgforum...
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Originally posted by 4Justice:
actually isnt winter like the best time to socialise?
long nights = awesome clubbing nights. I don't much like the sun.
Er... not for us. It's time to hunker down. We so detest the cold. *MG, talk to the hand*
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Originally posted by jetta:
Er... not for us. It's time to hunker down. We so detest the cold. *MG, talk to the hand*
D'oh!
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Originally posted by jetta:
Er... not for us. It's time to hunker down. We so detest the cold. *MG, talk to the hand*
then maybe u ought to stay in hot hot singapore?
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Originally posted by 4Justice:
then maybe u ought to stay in hot hot singapore?
Only if I can take all my fave TV stations with me, and all fish taco I can eat, and the casinos, the outlets...
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sound great to me....
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I think in the beginning, if you didn't move over with a group of friends or family, or if you didn't already have friends or family already present in the country, it can get pretty lonesome.
Like MG, I don't drink excessively, don't like the clubbing scene, which basically means that I'm not interested in almost all the activities that are being organised by the Aussies here.
I know I get drunk easily, and with no one willing to send me home afterwards, plus public transport is out of the question in the late hours, and I don't want to fight for taxis (and pay through my nose and teeth and there are also two reported incidents where the taxi drivers raped the drunk female passengers), I often choose not to attend the events, despite my colleagues and friends trying hard to encourage me. The one time I did join in a dept event, almost everyone got tipsy or drunk and got really rowdy and embarrassed themselves in all sorts of ways and I thought... "Nah... not a very nice sight!"
I would get tipsy back home amidst friends I'm comfortable with, but pissed drunk, no ways. I've only suffered a hangover ONCE, and it was enough!
I'm fortunate that there are plenty of Singaporeans here in my workplace. We go out now and then but because of the distance and the travelling time involved and the lousy public transport system here, a lot of times, we cancel our outings at the last minute because the thought of going through the public transport just turns us off!
We all agree that it was so much easier to decide to go out after a shift than it is here. So much more is involved here!
Besides, people tend to have hobbies and errands to run after work. I know a colleague who has to drive two hours each way to and from work and she lives in the countryside where she owns a horse or two. Another live near the sea where she recently built a chicken coop and is rearing five chooks for fresh eggs. And yet another chose to move way up north so she and her mate can go bush-walking often. See... in Singapore, such things are foreign to us!
So... lonely or not... in the beginning, very much but now, I've settled in, made new friends, I've got a support network, and I know that I'm alone because I choose to stay home and enjoy peace and solitude and just pottering about the house, or just hang loose and do nothing!
I do miss my close buddies though... It's hard to make real friends at this age and without a common history...
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actually, when you first move, no matter how many people or who you are around, there will be days when you will just feel lonely.
it's not a matter of making friends etc...you can still feel lonely when you're around hundreds of people or when you have a million things going on.but it's good to have someone to talk to on days like that. be it a family member, an old friend 'from home' or someone who will hopefully understand your situation...
there are some people who move and really NEVER make any friends in the' new' country. but that's usually because they don't socialize in any way at all. if you move and get a job or attend school, chances are, you'll make friends anyhow. esp good if you at least somewhat know someone there already. like...a friend's friend or something...
of course there are other reasons for not having friends. lousy personality, mental disorders of various sorts, i-hate-people, just pure bad luck....