The Singaporean Overseas Crap Box .....
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It's so hard!!! I want to return to Sg because of the safety, the familiar surroundings, etc even though I know the Sg I left behind is a very different one now. I know that I can segue back into life there, get my old job back and life would be good. But then when I do visit, two weeks is all I can stand. The rude people, some idiotic policies the sterile life there just gets to me.Originally posted by Fatum:they got the green cards, but decided to move back anyways ... for the kids I believe ... hub was doing great, career was taking off, taking in more than US$10000 a month ... kids started out in montisorri schools and were identified as gifted ... but I guess they moved back to be close to their families perhaps, and to expose their kids kids to asian culture i suppose, ... I dunno ... people move around the globe for various personal and esoteric reasons eh ....
it's about time for me to think of my own future path as well .... been thinking a lot about that lately .... no straight and easy answers for this eh ...
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Thank you streamie for your words of encouragement. I really want to settle down in one place for a few years. Cannot tell you how sick and tired I am of this semi nomadic military existence. Sick, sick, sick.Originally posted by littlestream:Oh dear..........sorry to read that. Oh, that's too bad. But it is indeed so sweet of you to have your parents live in it. Hmm.........a really sensitive situation eh?
But don't worry. God never allow something to happen to us that He feels we cannot handle. For now, the decision is made to relocate to Seattle. Proceed with your plan. And then, the other pieces of the jig saw will fall into place. Get the frame up first.
Good that you have a network of friends in Seattle. And with that familiarity, many things will be easier.
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i bet it is. his house is like 3000sqft and he paid in the low$300s. it is like that stepford wives that kind of community living. they have a park, a man made lake and all that. exclusive for their use. their, meaning my friends, and their neighbours.Originally posted by jetta:Isn't life cheaper in TX? I have a friend who moved from No Cal to TX and she loves it there. Big house, etc. Not Sgporean though. Will he take the green card anyway? That would be easier for him to then move to Canada as a US green card holder?
we have that kind fo housing too here. it's usually like in the golf course. and some are called adult living, meaning no kids. there's another term for it but i forgot. not estate homes but something else. is it gated community? somethgn like that lah.
well, i guess he will take it. but may eventually retire in canada though. oh, no need easier. he is already a canadian. -
you know ... I'm a natural worrier, to the point of being anal .... and sometimes if you try to balance the pros and cons of things you'll just get frustrated eh ...Originally posted by jetta:It's so hard!!! I want to return to Sg because of the safety, the familiar surroundings, etc even though I know the Sg I left behind is a very different one now. I know that I can segue back into life there, get my old job back and life would be good. But then when I do visit, two weeks is all I can stand. The rude people, some idiotic policies the serile life there just gets to me.
you're right ... Singapore is a pressure cooker, the political and geo-strategic developments is another factor ... I don't want my kids to end up apathetic, brainwashed, or be told that they can't be whatever they want to be by the system (read: streaming) ... I don't want them to grow up comfortable in Singapore and think it's the whole world ... I don't want them to take in all the stereotypes and prejudices .......
on the other hand, I want them to be able to go jogging late at night, alone, like I did, I want them to be safe wherever they go, I don't want people pushing weed to them in highschools and at the bus stations, i don't want them to face racist fucktards like I have to, I want them to undergo a rigorous education, I want them to excel in math and science, and not a system where mediocrity is crouched as equality for all ......
I dunno ... perhaps I'm too much of a worrier ... we can't insulate our loved ones from all the vagaries of the world eh ... (heck, I haven't even caught the mother of my little fatums yet ...
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... but yeah, i suppose, in the end, it's all about tradeoffs .... we can't have our cake and eat it too eh .... -
I tell you.........it takes "adjustments" too.Originally posted by jetta:It's so hard!!! I want to return to Sg because of the safety, the familiar surroundings, etc even though I know the Sg I left behind is a very different one now. I know that I can segue back into life there, get my old job back and life would be good. But then when I do visit, two weeks is all I can stand. The rude people, some idiotic policies the serile life there just gets to me. -
Some things, I don't have to go through, I know it's not fun. Besides, after a while, especially a prgression with age, we need some kind of routine. And kids do need continuity inspite of all that "easier to adapt" thingy.Originally posted by jetta:Thank you streamie for your words of encouragement. I really want to settle down in one place for a few years. Cannot tell you how sick and tired I am of this semi nomadic military existence. Sick, sick, sick. -
You know, I feel the same. Where can we go to have the best of both worlds? Apparently it's too much to ask for. I've stopped making lists a while ago. Does me no good because in the end, it's square one for me. Hubby's granny is stressing me out, telling me "advising" me on our next step. Thing is, no one knows about this military life we lead. No one except military families. I'm so sick of fielding her calls and advice. Sick, sick, sick. I think I'll have to give my mother a deadline of a year before I really have to sell my flat.Originally posted by Fatum:you know ... I'm a natural worrier, to the point of being anal .... and sometimes if you try to balance the pros and cons of things you'll just get frustrated eh ...
you're right ... Singapore is a pressure cooker, the political and geo-strategic developments is another factor ... I don't want my kids to end up apathetic, brainwashed, or be told that they can't be whatever they want to be by the system (read: streaming) ... I don't want them to grow up comfortable in Singapore and think it's the whole world ... I don't want them to take in all the stereotypes and prejudices .......
on the other hand, I want them to be able to go jogging late at night, alone, like I did, I want them to be safe wherever they go, I don't want people pushing weed to them in highschools and at the bus stations, i don't want them to face racist fucktards like I have to, I want them to undergo a rigorous education, I want them to excel in math and science, and not a system where mediocrity is crouched as equality for all ......
I dunno ... perhaps I'm too much of a worrier ... we can't insulate our loved ones from all the vagaries of the world eh ... (heck, I haven't even caught the mother of my little fatums yet ...ops ... but yeah, i suppose, in the end, it's all about tradeoffs .... we can't have our cake and eat it too eh ....
Fatum, no point my telling you not to fret because you still will. No point telling you Mrs Fatum will show herself because it's all out of our hands. Just do the best you can, lead your life in the direction you want it to go and see what happens. -
You're right. Move to Sg, have to adjust. Move to WA, have to adjust. I just want to be where there are the fewest adjustments. Too much to ask?Originally posted by littlestream:I tell you.........it takes "adjustments" too. 
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Okay guys, I have to run. Have to tackle chores left undone over the weekend. Thanks for your help. TTFN.
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Oh Fatum...........you are funny!!!
Yah lah.....why worry about things that hasn't happen. Waste energy right?
Anyways, like I say.........don't try to cover all the bases 'cos we never will. You surf, right? Well, someone said "living is like surfing". You gotta go with the wave. And you never know when you gonna get a big one. Just ride along.
Go with a desire. A goal. A passion. Problems that come along with it (the decision) will only serve to enrich and strengthen you.
Having said that, I strongly encourage you to work in Canada for a while. Take advantage of the opportunity. And then take it from there.
Good luck! -
Okidoki. Almost time to pack up liao too.
Nite nite jetta and Fatum -
Waiting for gossip kaki............come on, you know who you are!
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Yah, come on, you know who you are Rhonda.Originally posted by littlestream:Waiting for gossip kaki............come on, you know who you are!
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Eh, kawan..........someone calling you in SB.
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chasing motivation .......
hmmmm .... I think a timmy's cuppa will do the trick ... -
you mean timothy's? 'cos we have our hometown tim horton's
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Morning's been productive so far. Washed the car and it looks gorgeous now. Doing some chores as I sit here too. When I move, I MOVE.
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I'm guessing it's a nice place to eat at?Originally posted by littlestream:you mean timothy's? 'cos we have our hometown tim horton's -
so does it mean, when you don't, you don't?
well, for me, i like a quiet and relaxing evening. so, evenings, usually, my mode is on "DND". -
wah, not bad eh, jetta...........you wash your own car?
i chalk up points at the gas station and get free wash every now and then. -
Come. *piak!*Originally posted by littlestream:so does it mean, when you don't, you don't?
Dungeons and Dragons?Originally posted by littlestream:well, for me, i like a quiet and relaxing evening. so, evenings, usually, my mode is on "DND". 
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i like their flavoured coffee? are you a coffee person or tea?Originally posted by jetta:I'm guessing it's a nice place to eat at? -
Do Not Disturb
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I lurve lurve lurve washing cars. Maybe I should get a job washing cars?Originally posted by littlestream:wah, not bad eh, jetta...........you wash your own car?
i chalk up points at the gas station and get free wash every now and then.
How much are car washes where you are? The free wash you get, machine or hand wash? I prefer hand wash. In Japan, they have Ladies Day. You get a free car wash (500yen only!! who says Japan's expensive?
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Neither. Milo's my poison.Originally posted by littlestream:i like their flavoured coffee? are you a coffee person or tea?