Would you keep the baby?
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This thread is created with reference to the 'But the girl is pregnant!' thread.
Picture this.
You're 15 years old.
Out of school because... You're 5 months pregnant. You're too ashamed to face your classmates and possibly even your once close friends.
You know it's not totally your fault, the guy had played a vital part as well. Problem is, that jerk has abandoned you.
3 months ago, you freaked out when you found out that you're 2 months pregnant. You could still abort the baby if you want to.
Would you...
Be responsible, and deliver the baby?
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Be practical, and abort the baby? -
At 15, I think that it would be an arduous journey to try to raise a baby all by myself. *shakes head*
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Delivered and let other childless 2 adopt.Originally posted by aRcTiC_sTaR:At 15, I think that it would be an arduous journey to try to raise a baby all by myself. *shakes head*
Age 15 is still very much too young to have the responsible for the child's whole life.
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Would you bear to give away your child?
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You have no choice....Originally posted by aRcTiC_sTaR:Would you bear to give away your child? -
x2Originally posted by sbst275:You have no choice....
even if u can't bear, child's life is better with them than u. While u r still clueless in whatever u are going to do or supposed to do.....& maybe not even know how to educate a child when age 15 is still very much immature.
Then why let the child suffer with you.... -
True. But if they're so many couples out there willing to adopt children, the orphanages wouldn't have so many wards.
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Another thing to add is that of emtionally and psycologically prepared to be a single mum.Originally posted by stormax:x2
even if u can't bear, child's life is better with them than u. While u r still clueless in whatever u are going to do or supposed to do.....& maybe not even know how to educate a child when age 15 is still very much immature.
Then why let the child suffer with you.... -
Would you keep the baby?
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Abortion and responsibility are not mutually exclusive concepts.
She should do the responsible thing and abort the baby. -
The baby is innocent. Would it be responsible to abort the baby after getting pregnant? I guess this topic is one that is hard to agree on.
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Your view?
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There r really lots of couples out there willing to adopt children.Originally posted by aRcTiC_sTaR:True. But if they're so many couples out there willing to adopt children, the orphanages wouldn't have so many wards.
the thing is they dunna child 2 noe being adopted, so most wanted very young ones.
n u will need more documents n criteria 2 adopt from orphanages -
My view is that it would be incredibly irresponsible to give birth to a child who you have no way of raising.
The responsible thing is to abort and learn a lesson from this whole episode.
The issue is not whether she was irresponsible. That she was irresponsible is clear. The issue now is one of minimizing damage.
Edit: And why do you say the guy is a jerk? Girls have orgasms too you know. By leaving he is merely exercising his choice: He doesn't want a kid. -
You mean you rather kill the baby than to let him/her suffer?Originally posted by lwflee:My view is that it would be incredibly irresponsible to give birth to a child who you have no way of raising.
The responsible thing is to abort and learn a lesson from this whole episode.
Whether the baby will suffer or not, depends on the baby's fate too. Moreover, parents are very likely to help too.
Abortion is the irresponsble way. Letting other ppl to adopt isn't as bad as abortion. -
x2..... Abortion is not something to be taken lightly. For goodness' sake.... abortion is about killing your own flesh and blood. It has been determined that the foetus can actually feel the pain of being aborted.Originally posted by SnowFlag:You mean you rather kill the baby than to let him/her suffer?
Whether the baby will suffer or not, depends on the baby's fate too. Moreover, parents are very likely to help too.
Abortion is the irresponsble way. Letting other ppl to adopt isn't as bad as abortion.
It can actually feel the pain as it is being murdered.
Let some childless couple have the baby instead.
Still, the best idea is to not get into this scenario in the first place. If you're not responsible and ready enough to raise a child, then you should not be having sex in the first place. I'm 21 years old, I'll be 22 in June, and I'm proud to say that I'm still a virgin. No reason why that should not apply to 15 year olds. -
HA! You caught me bullShi|tting!Originally posted by SnowFlag:You mean you rather kill the baby than to let him/her suffer?
Whether the baby will suffer or not, depends on the baby's fate too. Moreover, parents are very likely to help too.
Abortion is the irresponsble way. Letting other ppl to adopt isn't as bad as abortion.
My view is actaully more callous:
I weigh the interests of the living, breathing mum and dad more than the unborn child. Whether or not the child can legitimately be said to be conscious is still a matter for debate. The general consensus has been that 2 weeks is too early for the baby to be considered alive. What we do know is that the Mum's life will be severly affected by the birth. -
*snigger*Originally posted by fudgester:I'm 21 years old, I'll be 22 in June, and I'm proud to say that I'm still a virgin. No reason why that should not apply to 15 year olds. -
i m still a virgin at 31
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be pratical and abort the baby.... cos this is not fantasy world where having ababy is fun.... in sg, having a baby is hell... smore only 15yr old...Originally posted by aRcTiC_sTaR:This thread is created with reference to the 'But the girl is pregnant!' thread.
Picture this.
You're 15 years old.
Out of school because... You're 5 months pregnant. You're too ashamed to face your classmates and possibly even your once close friends.
You know it's not totally your fault, the guy had played a vital part as well. Problem is, that jerk has abandoned you.
3 months ago, you freaked out when you found out that you're 2 months pregnant. You could still abort the baby if you want to.
Would you...
Be responsible, and deliver the baby?
Or...
Be practical, and abort the baby? -
You sure?Originally posted by BrUtUs:be pratical and abort the baby.... cos this is not fantasy world where having ababy is fun.... in sg, having a baby is hell... smore only 15yr old... -
Abortion is murder. Murder cannot be tolerated!
It's not the baby's fault that it wants to be born right? Why are you making an innocent die for your crime?
Mother Teresa says, "It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish." -
yup... its no easy job...Originally posted by sbst275:You sure? -
He could have taken precautions. It is just irresponsible to make someone pregnant and then leave her.Originally posted by lwflee:My view is that it would be incredibly irresponsible to give birth to a child who you have no way of raising.
The responsible thing is to abort and learn a lesson from this whole episode.
The issue is not whether she was irresponsible. That she was irresponsible is clear. The issue now is one of minimizing damage.
Edit: And why do you say the guy is a jerk? Girls have orgasms too you know. By leaving he is merely exercising his choice: He doesn't want a kid. -
my reply is kinda messy.. i'm never good with organising my words..
it all depends on the situation.. i have frenz who have gotten married at teh young age of 15, 18 cos of pregnancy.. their family is supportive, and it's so much easier to cope for them.
once, my sister popped the question to our mother.. "wat would u do if u realised that one of us is pregnant?" (*there are 3 daughters at home) My mother said, she could help look after the baby, provided that she doesn have to work, so the "mother" can go ahead to do wat she wants, she'll be there..
that is the kinda support u need from the family if u wanna give birth to the baby. u have to noe that u can go out to work or study while ur baby is in safe hands. u have to noe tat no matter wat happens, no matter how big the stress is, ur family will be there for u..
being a mother would mean that u lose the freedom to do things w/o considerin the pros n cons.. u have to start being responsible for ur action cos the moment u did the act w/o protection, u're already being very irresponsible, not to mention gettin urself pregnant. irresponsible to urself, n the baby u carry. my mother is still doin things w/o considerin the p&c.. thats y i can tell u its no good.. u dun wan ur kid to be the one tellin u wat's rite n wats wrong do u? when u're supposed to be teh one they turn to for advice nt the other way round
one more thing would be... when u were childless, u'd be thinkin.. 100 can last me for how many days.. at most, i'll eat instant noodles everyday.. but when u're with a child, u can't do that anymore... teh child/baby needs nutrients.. they need food
being a single mother isn't easy, but being in a marriage just becos of pregnancy isn't that good either.. I've seen it.. my family's like that.. My mother raised all of us single-handedly, we have a father, they're married but he doesn contribute at all. sch fees, livin expenses n everything were forked out by my mother..
n my mother blamed me for that... geez..