How do you know that you're "meant to be"?

• rae-lyn

  7 Apr 00, 23:22

  Love. A precious emotion shared between a male and a female, sometimes everlasting, other times, ephemeral. But how do you know when to hold on and when to let go?
  
  I don't believe there are any *sure* signs that indicate whether you have found your soulmate. Some people say it's chemistry, others say it's the meeting of minds, but most common of all, it's a gut instinct.
  
  Perhaps love is a gamble. You have to trust intuition to tell you whether you should stay with the person or not, and never regret the opportunities you pass up. Yet, if you decide not to hold on and check out all the opportunities you pass up, you could have missed "the one". Or is there even, a *one* for you?
  
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• DuZt

  8 Apr 00, 04:01

  i beg to differ
  people might consider it a meeting of minds, chemistry, gut instinct etc
  i think it's more to do with the propensity to stop thinking of each other as 2 individual entities sharing a common pleasure or goal, but as 2 people as one.
  About letting go of fear to achieve happiness
  Fear of rejection, betrayal, indifference and infidelity.
  And total trust in each other and the honesty that counter balances that trust as well as eliminating the fear.
  
  And THE ONE is what you make of it. IMO, love is not about hanging on or being comfortable with a person or worse of all being in the relationship for the sake of the other person. You will find THE ONE if you KNOW the person you are with is the one.
  
  My overly opinionated neng jiam
• prodigal

  9 Apr 00, 07:17

  Hi, rae-lyn,
  
  Well, read my signature, and you would understand when to hold on and when to let go...
  
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  "I wish that I could have the love of a woman who could come to my life, lift me from sorrow, depression and loneliness, and push me to higher heights. However, love is not about finding someone to relieve you, but love is about you devoting your heart and soul to love that someone, even if you know that someone do not love you the way you do."
  - Prodigal
• MayaJade

  9 Apr 00, 20:10

  I do not know, too. Are normal hearts capable of staying true no matter what and so hold on to love when there is nothing to hold on to or many feel the temptation sooner or later.
  
  After a while, one changes. What used to be enough may seem inadequate. That which used to be tolerable might prove killing. So how do you know you're supposed to be salvaging the relationship or you should sell it to the karung guni man?
  
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  Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. Yes is the answer.
• prodigal

  11 Apr 00, 23:10

  Dear MayaJade,
  
  Sometimes, I doubt that normal hearts are capable of staying true. Sometimes, I look at myself and wonder why my past r/s fails Sometimes, I wonder why I am still travelling alone and be envious about the people around me who are already attached or married...
  
  Yet I still believe in true love, no matter how sometimes these feelings of depression, sorrows and fear could creep into my heart and sadden me. I wish that I could have the day where my ex-gfs come back to me and start it over again. But the saying goes, somethings which are broken can never be mended back again... Maybe I just decide that I should leave it behind....
  
  Nevermind, just some thoughts.
  
  
• newwe

  14 Apr 00, 03:15

  Prodigal, don't be sadden by your failing relatinship. You don't have to envy others. I think that the reason why we are alone are inside ourselves.
  
  From my point of view, it's more like we are not ready to look into the same direction of the other party. thus, we tend to change and look at the ugly side of the relationship and this is where we start to drift.
  
  true love is great but how many examples could be found in our society. We are jus too relistic about too many things. I think in our society, our focus is not love.
• forex

  14 Apr 00, 23:54

  I do not believe the "meant to be" is a love at first sight kind of thing..although perhaps in rare cases, so do not bet on it.
  
  Rather, you will know if it is "meant to be" thru' a simple experience. Let's say you know this person and has been in communication for a period of time, say half a year or more on a regular basis and suddenly the person "disappears" for one two days, maybe work related (or purposely), you will feel panicky and keep wanting to call. Then you know the person is "meant to be".
  
  
• moose

  16 Apr 00, 00:47

  It all depends on something called gut instinct or feelings or whatever it is,but how does the gut instinct tells you that is a different matter altogether as there is no hard and fast rule,some more,nothing is confirmed in this world.You gut instinct or whatever may tell you this is the one now,but later on,it may tell you a different story altogether.so just trust your instincts cause when you know the person is to be,you will know it by omne way or another
• oreo

  30 Apr 00, 22:50

  is it then uncommon to feel that u love ur partner,but that he/she is unable to satisfy u emotionally? it's like u feel that he/she can't understand u, and at the same time feel very exasperated as u ask urself what love is meant to be..
• Biaxident

  30 May 00, 12:00

  " By a candle stands a mirror of his heart and soul, she dances
  She was dancing through the night above his bed "
  
  " Heaven must be more than this
  When angels waken with a kiss
  Sacred hearts won't take the pain
  But mine will never be the same "
  
  When you find this... you'll know
  
  
• jliu

  9 Jul 00, 06:58

  Originally posted by rae-lyn:

  Love. A precious emotion shared between a male and a female, sometimes everlasting, other times, ephemeral. But how do you know when to hold on and when to let go?
  
  **WHEN YOU'RE TIRED**
  
  I don't believe there are any *sure* signs that indicate whether you have found your soulmate. Some people say it's chemistry, others say it's the meeting of minds, but most common of all, it's a gut instinct.
  
  Perhaps love is a gamble. You have to trust intuition to tell you whether you should stay with the person or not, and never regret the opportunities you pass up. Yet, if you decide not to hold on and check out all the opportunities you pass up, you could have missed "the one". Or is there even, a *one* for you?
  
  **THE DECISION IS YOURS TO MAKE**
  
  

  [This message has been edited by jliu (edited 10 July 2000).]