Essential Qualities of a Girlfriend
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Essential Qualities... very abstract indeed.
I admire a girl who is sincere, who does not wear a mask, nor put on a fake personality just to win your attention. It is true, that most males are get attention disorder the moment some chun babe in short tight attire walks down the street. But that is external cosmetics at it's best. What matters most is the heart.
I live in a metropolis where sincerity is dying, and people are being extremely superficial in character. It's not easy finding someone who is true.
Another few qualities (compiled from chats with pals, uncles and aunties...)
- Loving n caring
- Loyal
- Compatible
- Sensitive yet understanding
- Can control her own emotions
- Can cook well (uncles opinion)
- Romantic
- Sweet personality
- Seductive (???)
I don't know if these tips would help.. guess I am just posting what I feel now.
(I am bound to get firing from folks back home in KL.. whatever) -
Be sincere. Thats essential to me.
I cannot thing of anything better than one who could just be herself, and do not wear a mask. Why hide your true self? Sooner or later we are sure to unveil these truths, so why bother wearing this mask?
To all you girls out there, be sincere. -
eXeGeSiS
Junior Member
Essential Qualities... very abstract indeed.
I admire a girl who is sincere, who does not wear a mask, nor put on a fake personality just to win your attention. It is true, that most males are get attention disorder the moment some chun babe in short tight attire walks down the street. But that is external cosmetics at it's best. What matters most is the heart.
I live in a metropolis where sincerity is dying, and people are being extremely superficial in character. It's not easy finding someone who is true.
eXeGeSiS
Junior Member
Be sincere. Thats essential to me.
I cannot thing of anything better than one who could just be herself, and do not wear a mask. Why hide your true self? Sooner or later we are sure to unveil these truths, so why bother wearing this mask?
To all you girls out there, be sincere.
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i'm very impressed my eXeGeSiS.. haha.. i nv tot such a kinda person still exist.. very nice words.. =) -
I want a understanding gal...
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hey not all guys R like say ok... i dare to say tt i m not like wat u said....so wat if she is fat or wat???? it is not a factor.... anyway...wat abt gurls nowadays?? u gurls choose/picky oso wat ..... still dare to say us guys...eh i tell u lah...at least ar..we don say shitty things like example....'u surely got chance' onli to like another guy in the end...so..u got anything to say abt this???Originally posted by pixie_gal:Come on guys.... all this talk about going for character rather than looks in gals is CHEAP! Action speaks LOUDER than words! We see how those guys go ga-ga over babes and practically drooling after them and worshipping the ground they walk on.... so guys, any comments? *LUFFZ*
Talking abt essential qualities of a gf, I am sure looks will be 1st priority! I mean, yeah, your gal need NOT be a babe but at least must be PLEASANT in the guy's eyes rite? All those talk abt character is BULLSHIT! Say, guys, u all got to know this gal is FAT or maybe THIN, will you even consider her or give her a second look though she may have an ANGELIC character? NO rite? See, get wat I mean? LOOKS still come FIRST!
Also, a guy usually likes gals who are demure and homely I guess! It has always been the case. I hope I am NOT generalising. Gals who are fun-loving and maybe exciting can only be a gf and NOT a wife rite? And when looking for a LONG-TERM relationsp, guys will look for a demure and gentle gal...... is that true guys? Apparently, ALL my guy friends are like that! *SHRUGS*
They say, there are 3 categories of gals!
1) Can NV be my gf kind
2) Can ONLY be gf and NOT a wife kind, one I can only have FUN wif.
3) Can go for long-term relationsp kind
Usually the 3) category will be the DEMURE and GENTLE sort..... rite? *GRINZ* So wat? That means that ALL gals must turn demure and hmely b4 they can find a long term bf or a husband? *LUFFZ*
Hey guys! Wat are u all tinking? Wat's the attraction about demure and gentle gals? Life is be sooo BOGING! *YAWNZ* But well, maybe you guys adore such gals? *SHRUGS*
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Well I think the first impressions are usually the most important and thereafter its usually how the girl carries herself. Confidence is one of the greatest charm I think. Charm = sexy, Charm + confidence = drop dead gorgeous
Originally posted by rae-lyn:I've got a group of friends who say that the essential qualities of a girlfriend is to be short, have a flat head, big ears and no teeth. (If you don't get this, don't bother asking)
But what is it to be a good girlfriend? Do guys go for looks first or character? Do silly things like hair length ACTUALLY matter? -
Well, let's be very rational about it. The essential of the essential qualities of a girl is that she must be a 100% girl, and is/was not, and/or not harboring, thinking, planning by deeds, thoughts or speech that she's a darn bloody faggart before.
In simple English, she must always been a girl and nothing more. I do hear enough stories to make you puke as the 'girl' is actually not one. -
nothing to say....Originally posted by EE:Well, let's be very rational about it. The essential of the essential qualities of a girl is that she must be a 100% girl, and is/was not, and/or not harboring, thinking, planning by deeds, thoughts or speech that she's a darn bloody faggart before.
In simple English, she must always been a girl and nothing more. I do hear enough stories to make you puke as the 'girl' is actually not one.
lol
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not so sure what encompasses 'heart-to-heart'. but in all the books which i have ever read about this topic...it seems that guys in general do not like heart-to-heart talks......about facts and people and politics, yes. but when it comes to the heart...i'm not too sure....Originally posted by firefly:dun they ever wish dat they can have someone whom they can have a heart-to-heart talk wif? -
Don't bother about "Essential Qualities of a Girlfriend". Focus on being yourself. If your prospective partner cannot accept you as you are, chances are: nothing you do will help.
That applies to the guys too. -
a good heart
a kind soul
pleasant personality
who can think for you
love you
looks - will be lost with age....
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For me girl out look is not importance than
the internal goodwill -
i make things simple, if i see that gal will feel cannot eat food will puke, then she is out, other than that i can take any girl, i am so easy
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Hi ,
For me , i personally chose character & look alright to me !
Well , currently i in love with a girl name
Jiashi and i can tell she too in love with me
after many hints !
But we are a good friend now only . -
well well well, the reason is actually very simple: the purpose of him looking at other gals is that he can proudly tell himself that his girlfriend is still the very best of the many gals he have seem.Originally posted by oreo:while we r on this topic,can anyone tell me why when a guy has a girlfriend he will still look out for pretty girls when he goes out?does it mean he's not happy with his girlfriend? -
I prefer a girl to be understanding , kind ,
gentle , love nature & animals and acceptable look !
Simple request only .
Not too fat and not too skinny , haha , just joking .
Not important as long as she is a person who we can get along with .
Heh....................
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SINGAPOREAN , CHINESE GUY BORN IN YEAR 1983 WISH TO FIND FRIENDS TO CHAT ! -
Anyway i already know a girl who meet my request now !
Love is Fate ,
When it Comes ,
Nothing can stop it ,
When it go ,
Let it go ,
Coz there nothing you can do ,
Learn to let it go ,
Coz the power of love is GREAT !
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SINGAPOREAN , CHINESE GUY BORN IN YEAR 1983 WISH TO FIND FRIENDS TO CHAT ! -
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i too choose character and must have a bit of the looks.
i don't want to get a girl who is too pretty for me anyway. what if one day she hooks up with another guy behind my back? that would just be easy on her and hard for me. why should i sacrifice my heart just to most likely get betrayed? even if she had told me beforehand just to clear her guilty conscience it would still be hard on me. maybe i am a sensitive person but this to me is a most dangerous stage for a guy and it might change him. thing is, i don't want that to happen so that is why i wouldn't prefer much of their looks cos its something i can't trust. unless she stood up to me and told me that she really cared for me which is something i am not hoping for it to happen because in the third dimension it just won't! or in any other ways that shows her sincerity. (oh come on! stop kidding yourself! who on earth would actually do that?)
i've been hurt before (doesn't apply to anyone that i might know but just me) so when i see a pretty girl in shopping malls, its just not the same anymore. instead, what i see is a knife and then i would feel my heartbeat. why a knife? because looks to me is nothing more of a weapon. just like a knife, it can be use but also to hurt people. it is not such a good thing because ppl USE it to manipulate others. it is a "talent for survival" - Maximus from Gladiator. it is the reason why we look at one person this way and another differently. it cannot be justified. but that doesn't mean i should be judgemental as they can't help how they look if they look pretty! (goes to guys too.) well let's just say that if you study them it all adds up to the way they dress, their hairstyle their gesture and how loud they are (how they present themself in their package). who better than anyone to know how a person behaves in public? when they do it, they don't realise it. obviously, the person who is watching them gets a point for this.
good looking people are mostly arrogant, maybe not in short-term (in front of you for the first few days, barely knows your name and wanting to make a good impression) but in all cases long term. (when they've known you for quite a long time, when they somehow get tired of you, when they know that you know he/she looks better than you and you have to show a little more respect to them for that, when they might finally show their true colours!)
So you're guessing that i don't go for looks right? WHAM! Right on! I must be a LIAR then! Well who says i don't go for looks? I only mentioned that i wouldn't prefer much of their looks. My ratio of looks to character is 40% to 60%. So at best their looks might just turn out to be 37% to me which doesn't kick in at all. It doesn't matter that much.
You think everything exists in two? Well you forgot the third. Girls tend to think that if they're not pretty, then they have to be ugly. But actually there are three things to looks.
1) Pretty (a heavenly fruit. something that you want but you don't necessarily need.)
2) Not pretty (fruit still looks edible (earthly) and its something that you still need, something you can depend on for survival)
3) Ugly (A bad fruit which is inedible and has changed its colour. Something you don't need at all.)
A person who looks ugly is obviously a person who doesn't want to attract attention and someone who doesn't believe in it. So nobody would go for ugly and we're all okay with thaT. But everyone goes for a reasonable standard in looks which doesn't have to be pretty all the time. So girls, if you're not that pretty, its just fine with us cos what matters most is your character.
Oh yeah, anybody here watching Star Wars?
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