Why Men Don't Call Back
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If you've ever had a great date with a man, shared intense chemistry, and you could
tell he had an amazing time with you, but he didn't call you to ask you out ever again...WHY this happens.
WHAT it means.
Why Men Don't Call: Situation #1
Some men are too immature to be honest and straight-forward with a woman
Sometimes men are just being dumb and giving themselves ego strokes by flirting with you, even though they never really thought they'd call.
But they get your number anyway to feel good and to have it "just in case" they got some random urge or reason to call you in the future.
Plus, getting a woman's number is a kind of "trophy" to show to other immature men.Why Men Don't Call: Situation #2
They were just looking for a hook-up and you weren't "fling" material (which is a good thing, unless that's all you're looking for).
Often times men think they just want a woman to be "physical" with.
If you're out at a club or a bar and you meet a man, often times he'll have "hooking up" on his mind.
....If you meet a guy like this and, in his eyes, you're the girl he'd bring home to mom, then you might not be the girl he'll want to spend his time with... at least for the near future.
But in spite of this, he takes your number, in case he gets the crazy foreign idea in his head that he'd actually want a great girl for a real relationship.
And guess what?
He doesn't come to that realization for a very long time - so he doesn't call.
I'm not saying it makes sense, but that's how some men operate.
And in a strange way, men who do this are doing you a favor at that time in their life.
The timing wasn't right.To be continued...
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Why Men Don't Call: Situation #3
They thought they were being "polite" by getting your number, even though they never felt like calling
Have you ever given your number to a man who asked for it, meanwhile you were already dreading his call and wishing inside that you had given him a fake number?
And I know it sucks to think about this, but have you ever thought that the tables could be turned?
See... if men enjoy their conversations with you but aren't that interested, they sometimes feel a polite "obligation" to get your number.
It's a kind of way to end the interaction on a positive note... even though they never really thought about if they intended to call you.
I know it sucks, but men aren't often up front and assertive either when it comes to the opposite sex.
Why Men Don't Call: Situation #4
They were interested in you at first, but after a little while they started to feel like something was "off"... maybe even after they got your number.
And while you were trying so hard to create random reasons for you to see each other again and to not have a guy get your number and not call again, they could sense your subtle fear and discomfort.
And so the attraction and connection they had just started feeling with you changed and was "broken."
Why Men Don't Call: Situation #5
They lost your number or forgot to call.
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Ok, now let me ask you...
Did you figure out what each of these situations has in common?
I'll give you a hint:
It has something to do with your feelings.
Give up?
There are 2 things actually.
First off, none of them have ANYTHING to do with you being a "loser", like you mentioned.
See, the fascinating thing is that in each of these situations, it's YOUR CHOICE to make the MEANING out of them that you want.
Unfortunately, it seems like the meaning you've chosen to make has been NEGATIVE.
In other words, you've actually started to criticize yourself and think even more negatively because guys didn't pick up the phone and punch in your number.
Talk about a way to make sure you keep screwing up and feeling bad about your love life.
And worse, men can actually sense these things when you meet them and will instantly categorize you as a woman that they don't want to be around if you've got that freaked out, negative, over- attachment to the casual conversation you're having with them.
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Of the ones that don't involve men just being weird or "unavailable" for more than a casual fling, there's a common theme going on.
They weren't FEELING ATTRACTION.
See, there's something I don't think you see you're doing here...
You seem to know about an important concept when it comes to men - teasing and throwing in certain kinds of "challenges" to attract their interest and attention.
But... there's a huge difference between KNOWING what these things are and actually DOING them.
The thing is, almost all women KNOW that they SHOULD tease and excite a man to dial up his interest.
But when it comes to actually doing these things in a fun, consistent, and exciting way,
they fall short.
Why?
Because who wants to bother?
And isn't it better for someone to just like you for you?
Maybe.
But what if there's a real and genuine "you" that men just need some help to see with so much other stuff going on?
And what if you're hiding that away because of your frustrations from the past or fears about what might happen in the present?
Here's a radical thought...
With things not going exactly how you want them to go with your love life - imagine if you actually changed a few of YOUR everyday patterns of behavior with men to try and get a few different results.
What are the odds that part of the common denominator here is YOU, and not that all men have the exact same problem or issue with calling back?
Would it be too much to ask that you at least try a few different things that were outside of your "natural" comfort zone of what you've always done or what makes sense to you?
________You need to start creating EXCITING REASONS for a man to WANT to see you again.
There's something lots of single women do when they meet guys and want to see them again.
And it makes it so that the man isn't very interested or excited to reconnect with the woman afterwards.
It's when a woman tries to come up with any old reason under the sun to "reconnect" with a man, not realizing how important the "reason" actually is.
It usually goes something like this...Woman meets man.
Man and woman start to connect.
They talk about "interesting" stuff and the woman becomes interested in the man.
The man enjoys the conversation and talking to the woman, who's a great person and seems attractive.
The woman feels a connection and assumes that he must feel it too since it's there.
The man asks for her number and she kind of "lets down her guard" and becomes very friendly with him and feels comfortable.
The woman then starts talking about the things that they can do together when they see each other next, based on the conversational topics they had.
The man's attraction, intrigue and interest in the woman suddenly drops off.
End of story.
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aiya, its like that de la. Men are too wussy to call. Now with sms, they find even more reasons not to call but just sms...
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Originally posted by weewee:
aiya, its like that de la. Men are too wussy to call. Now with sms, they find even more reasons not to call but just sms...
Ouch, very sad but true.
How does sms even qualify as form of communication. Oh well.
Cheers!
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no lor. i wna see this girl but she has been avoiding me suddenly. i kinda scared i came on too fast. :/
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sg guys hum ji one lar
bo lor eng
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Originally posted by khongming:
Ouch, very sad but true.
How does sms even qualify as form of communication. Oh well.
Cheers!
Cannot sms is it ?
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
Cannot sms is it ?
Can sms, but not the best form of communication.
Nobody wants a love interest or partner to only be able to express their feelings through sms right?
Men already have weakness in reading body language and producing non verbal language positively. Now the form of communication have been weakened to non visuals, this might not help unless you grasp a good sense of communication already.
With that said, if the best a guy can do to contact a girl he's interested in is sms. So be it. Let it start with that, at least it's an action taken.
Cheers
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Originally posted by khongming:
Can sms, but not the best form of communication.
Nobody wants a love interest or partner to only be able to express their feelings through sms right?
Men already have weakness in reading body language and producing non verbal language positively. Now the form of communication have been weakened to non visuals, this might not help unless you grasp a good sense of communication already.
With that said, if the best a guy can do to contact a girl he's interested in is sms. So be it. Let it start with that, at least it's an action taken.
Cheers
I rest my case. lol
Anyways.. keep up wth the scenario and situations. I tried compiling something like this years ago. I gave up.. after just too many kinds of scenario. I now just stick to categorising the females. But that said.. its also very headache. haha.
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Originally posted by weewee:
aiya, its like that de la. Men are too wussy to call. Now with sms, they find even more reasons not to call but just sms...
call = can only talk to one person at 1 point of time.
sms = same amount of time, but can use to communicate with many.
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sms rejection are easier to face then voice call
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because they fear the $30 k proposal ring?
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I met a great lady and we have 3 amazing dates. We grew physical and after a bottle of red wine on the 3rd date, we slept.
I didn't call after.. wanted to badly but didn't. the problem wasn't with her. it was with me but it wasn't any of the 5 situation described above. I just didn't know how to. I was more interested in her than getting physical with her but I'm not sure how to express this and we're moving along too fast. I couldn't tell her to slow down cause I don't want her to think I'm not interested... so...
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because the reception is like f*ck
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:
because the reception is like f*ck
This is a technical issue. Blame it on the Telco.
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Originally posted by anonymous_dickhead:
I met a great lady and we have 3 amazing dates. We grew physical and after a bottle of red wine on the 3rd date, we slept.
I didn't call after.. wanted to badly but didn't. the problem wasn't with her. it was with me but it wasn't any of the 5 situation described above. I just didn't know how to. I was more interested in her than getting physical with her but I'm not sure how to express this and we're moving along too fast. I couldn't tell her to slow down cause I don't want her to think I'm not interested... so...
omg after sleeping with her, u don't dare to call her
sounds incredible
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Dun know about u guys but i still feel that talking is much better den SMS...
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Originally posted by anonymous_dickhead:
I met a great lady and we have 3 amazing dates. We grew physical and after a bottle of red wine on the 3rd date, we slept.
I didn't call after.. wanted to badly but didn't. the problem wasn't with her. it was with me but it wasn't any of the 5 situation described above. I just didn't know how to. I was more interested in her than getting physical with her but I'm not sure how to express this and we're moving along too fast. I couldn't tell her to slow down cause I don't want her to think I'm not interested... so...
D!ckhead.
While U are here worryin & figeting wat r u goin to do nxt, u duno on the other side the gal might be waitin anxiously for u to call or at least some form of contact. Making vanishing acts after slpin with her makes her think tat u r toyin with her (unless she's a player herself) - all u want is jus sex. She's probably feelin terrible rite now.
U r really a d!ckhead.
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why men dun call??
haha... funny thingy here... anyway, i dun give men my number. i often make them give me theirs.. but i nv call... haha
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I mentioned before that I have this guy friend who woos girls but then suddenly stops calling them after a few dates.
Apparently it makes the girls become more interested in knowing him.
Even those who did not show any interest initially.
He says it screws their minds and confuses them.
Go figure.
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Originally posted by charlize:
I mentioned before that I have this guy friend who woos girls but then suddenly stops calling them after a few dates.
Apparently it makes the girls become more interested in knowing him.
Even those who did not show any interest initially.
He says it screws their minds and confuses them.
Go figure.
Ur fren wanna "Hang up to sell" ah..
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Originally posted by charlize:
I mentioned before that I have this guy friend who woos girls but then suddenly stops calling them after a few dates.
Apparently it makes the girls become more interested in knowing him.
Even those who did not show any interest initially.
He says it screws their minds and confuses them.
Go figure.
That's for the guys benefit. Haha
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And yes, I have given him hell before on this.
Men are pigs.
Really.
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Originally posted by khongming:
That's for the guys benefit. Haha
i wish i so skilled
