friendship vs relationship

• R3SsH|n

  15 Mar 07, 23:32

  would you regard friendship more than relationship?
  
  lets say there is this person who is a friend of yours. you start to like him/her but the only thing holding you back from telling him/her is that you are afraid things will never be the same after you told him/her.
  
  this causes an awkward situation especially if you see each other on a regular basis.
  
  would u rather keep quiet and hope that its just a passing phase or would you go all out and burp it out?
  
  expression or contentment?
• Darkness_hacker99

  15 Mar 07, 23:35

  Ya. I have this problem.. haiz.. I choose friendship.
  
  The reason why I choose friendship is because of my past experience.
  
  I confest to two girl but both 1 rejected me, another 1 break off in less than 1month(reason: she wanted a christian partner )
  
  In both cases it took soooo long to mend the broken friendship..
• browniebaobao

  15 Mar 07, 23:39

  experienced that before..
  
  i kept quiet.. bcos we are too 'fren' liao and bcos of the hurt i got from my past relationships makes me fear of getting into another.
  
  but anyway, i took around 8-10 months to confess to him, but until now, i still have not asked him how he feel towards me.
  
  anyway, it's over. I have moved on.
• R3SsH|n

  15 Mar 07, 23:40

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  Ya. I have this problem.. haiz.. I choose friendship.
  
  The reason why I choose friendship is because of my past experience.
  
  I confest to two girl but both 1 rejected me, another 1 break off in less than 1month(reason: she wanted a christian partner )
  
  In both cases it took soooo long to mend the broken friendship..

  did u considered friendship or relationship when you ask them to be your steady?
• R3SsH|n

  15 Mar 07, 23:42

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  experienced that before..
  
  i kept quiet.. bcos we are too 'fren' liao and bcos of the hurt i got from my past relationships makes me fear of getting into another.
  
  but anyway, i took around 8-10 months to confess to him, but until now, i still have not asked him how he feel towards me.
  
  anyway, it's over. I have moved on.

  so u did put relationship ahead of friendship.
  when does relationship outweights friendship?
• browniebaobao

  15 Mar 07, 23:48

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  so u did put relationship ahead of friendship.
  when does relationship outweights friendship?

  altho i really liked him a lot, but i have always treated him like a fren. bcos i dun want it to affect our friendship.. so i dare not make any deliberate move..
  
  i think it's better to be frens ba.. coz frens can be forever.. after quarrel can still be frens.. but couples after break le most probably will go separate ways, leaving each other feeling scarred or hate each other for life. even if there's no hatred, they wun be frens like they were before they got attached.
  
  
• Darkness_hacker99

  15 Mar 07, 23:49

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  did u considered friendship or relationship when you ask them to be your steady?

  of course is relationship lor..
• R3SsH|n

  15 Mar 07, 23:56

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  altho i really liked him a lot, but i have always treated him like a fren. bcos i dun want it to affect our friendship.. so i dare not make any deliberate move..
  
  

  but u still confessed to him?
  what were u thinking when u did that? you were probably risking seeing him again and talking to him again and spending all those time with him again. why would u wanna risk all that?
  
  

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  i think it's better to be frens ba.. coz frens can be forever.. after quarrel can still be frens.. but couples after break le most probably will go separate ways, leaving each other feeling scarred or hate each other for life. even if there's no hatred, they wun be frens like they were before they got attached.
  

  i think this is a pessimistic view on broken relationship...not all broken relationships always end up in hatred...
• R3SsH|n

  15 Mar 07, 23:57

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  of course is relationship lor..

  but they weren't very close friends right? those you have known for years?
• browniebaobao

  16 Mar 07, 00:08

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  i think this is a pessimistic view on broken relationship...not all broken relationships always end up in hatred...

  juz wanted to get it off my chest..
  
  of course, if the liking wasn't deep at all, i wun be stucked for that long.. and wouldn't have the urge to confess..
  
  true, not every r/s ends with hatred.
  
  but unfortunately my last r/s leave me with hatred until now.
• Patrik

  16 Mar 07, 00:11

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  would you regard friendship more than relationship?
  
  lets say there is this person who is a friend of yours. you start to like him/her but the only thing holding you back from telling him/her is that you are afraid things will never be the same after you told him/her.
  
  this causes an awkward situation especially if you see each other on a regular basis.
  
  would u rather keep quiet and hope that its just a passing phase or would you go all out and burp it out?
  
  expression or contentment?

  Depression.
  
• R3SsH|n

  16 Mar 07, 00:16

  Originally posted by Patrik:

  Depression.
  

  wad u mean?
• Patrik

  16 Mar 07, 00:19

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  wad u mean?

  Pondering between contentment and expression,thus emerges depression.
  
• M©+square

  16 Mar 07, 00:21

  "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage."
• R3SsH|n

  16 Mar 07, 00:31

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage."

  u give me strength?
• M©+square

  16 Mar 07, 00:38

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  u give me strength?

  If you do not express, you fear of your future. You lack strength.
  
  So you're willing to settle for the second best, which is considered 'consolation' since you cannot bring yourself to express your desires.
  
  Friendship or Relationship?
  Can this 'potential relationship' be forsaken or forgotten? If yes. Then friendship is the best choice.
  
  Otherwise, it's your decision.
  
  
• ermintham

  16 Mar 07, 15:08

  Originally posted by M©+square:
  
  If you do not express, you fear of your future. You lack strength.
  
  So you're willing to settle for the second best, which is considered 'consolation' since you cannot bring yourself to express your desires.
  
  Friendship or Relationship?
  Can this 'potential relationship' be forsaken or forgotten? If yes. Then friendship is the best choice.
  
  Otherwise, it's your decision.
  
  

  wat do u mean? i dun get u
• browniebaobao

  16 Mar 07, 18:39

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage."

  i'll use this as my siggie.
• Darkness_hacker99

  16 Mar 07, 18:52

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  but they weren't very close friends right? those you have known for years?

  2 years count anot?
• R3SsH|n

  17 Mar 07, 03:08

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  2 years count anot?

  no.
• M©+square

  17 Mar 07, 03:11

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  i'll use this as my siggie.

  
• Quinsy

  17 Mar 07, 03:13

  I blurped it out and then got rejected. After that I thought it was just as well cuz I don't think I was serious about him.