How to keep a man? Women...What do you understand about men?
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Are there more girls like you?Originally posted by rainee:me too!
In fact my dear said he enjoys "fighting" with me over who will pay the bill... And sometimes I have to just drop the money onto him or put it into his pocket so that he will accept my payment
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Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:
What's TLC?
I know this is not a topic on women but let me try to rephrase using blu_sky's quote for a general summary on how to keep a woman too.
[b]Every woman is different. Know your lady, and do what she likes, do things that she enjoys doing together and abstain from wat she doesnt like. Give her attention, give her TLC. Hear her out. Build mutual trust and respect. That is the way to keep a woman, i think. [/b]
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coz i will feel the pinch for him.Originally posted by blu_sky:why you muz pay leh? if he likes to pay, why dun let him pay leh? why muz be so 'zhi zhuo' leh?
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why?Originally posted by dokono:You know what I think about your ex?
He's an idiot.
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actually when they told me about their sexual history hor.. i could take it leh..Originally posted by blu_sky:he will open up when he feels really comfortable and there will be no repurcussion.
i always try to make it a point not to be angry when my man confess something to me. i think that works for me?
to me, if he's willing to tell me wat's bothering him etc.. then it also means there's a certain level of trust comfortability.. -
But if bcos of that, quarrel, dont you think it is not worth it?Originally posted by browniebaobao:coz i will feel the pinch for him.
i dun feel good to spend other's money la..
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past sexual history is juz a fragment of everything, isnt it?Originally posted by browniebaobao:actually when they told me about their sexual history hor.. i could take it leh..
to me, if he's willing to tell me wat's bothering him etc.. then it also means there's a certain level of trust comfortability.. -
You mentioned 2 exes right? Or you had 100 more exes you did not mention?Originally posted by blu_sky:why?
For the first one, I don't think spending too much is necessary. Getting to know each other better so it's too much. And what a joke, he actually paid for you so fast after coming out of the fitting room, is he so happy just to please you? Like trying too hard to suck up ?
For the second one, I don't know why you two broke up. But since broken up, just move on. Seems like they still can't forget you because, maybe you look like Lin Zhiling, I think.
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[quote]Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:
My Take
In that case, it isn't necessarily the man's ego is it? Why do you want to insist on paying? I think that paying for things is a small thing, and generally shouldnt need to be too calculative. Some things he pay, some things I pay, doesn't need to calculate down to every cent. And sometimes it isn't about ego if the guy is upset that the girl keeps insisting on paying, but even among friends I will feel a little hurt if a friend wants to be so calculative with me that i can't even treat him/her a meal when I feel like it?
it's not being calculative ba..
partly bcos i dun want him to think that im with him bcos of his money.
but my ex told me if he insist on paying, i should juz graciously accept.. since then, I seldom reject man's offer.
Well, maybe it is because you begged him. You can 'speed up' a relationship but it is very difficult to 'force' a friendship. And being his girlfriend does not automatically qualify you as his buddy/friend, and definitely does not entitle you to be privy to all that he thinks. And I think the more you quarrel about wanting to be 'in the know', the more he will shy away from wanting to tell y ou about it.
The reason he gave was.. he din want me to worry for him..
he was almost involved in a military lawsuit and i was very worried, couldnt eat or sleep...
I can only say perhaps you need to take some time off and re-assess the type of men you are interested in. A relationship is made up of many elements - companionship and lust ARE important in a lasting relationship. In fact, I think for most people, a compatible companionship AND lust is important before love can start to take root. Love takes time.
Perhaps?
but to me, love comes before lust.
but then again, i was juz referring to my exs.
not stereotyping here.
Take time to understand how each man needs to be loved cos all of them are different right? We all need to be loved in different ways, when we are with different people, when we are in different life stages.
true enough..
You can't make anyone commit. No one is ever in a perpetually committed or uncommitted relationship. It isn't a ... 'state' in a relationship where everyone 'strives' towards. It is a continual process that needs to be worked at, the 'flux' that smooths the edges, heals the hurt, discard the unnecessary elements that weakens the relationship.
this is kinda Cheem...
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never quarrel over this issue before leh..Originally posted by blu_sky:But if bcos of that, quarrel, dont you think it is not worth it?
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huh?Originally posted by blu_sky:past sexual history is juz a fragment of everything, isnt it? -
Just wondering, what does he likes?Originally posted by blu_sky:And all the forumites here say, food. keep him well-fed. but i had got another ex who doesnt like to eat. Food? no use. Well, of cos i found out what he likes (*wink) and that relationship lasted for 5 years. We broke up 2 years already, and he is still asking me to patch up till today.
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sometimes u oni realise things after u have lost him........
it's bcos when he's not there anymore, u have more time to think and reflect about his character, wat he likes, wat he hopes from u........
some things are conveniently taken for granted or invisible when u are together... -
tasty little crackersOriginally posted by dokono:What's TLC?
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Low fat, low sodium..great for girls watching their figure
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got other brand?Originally posted by alexkusu:tasty little crackers
Low fat, low sodium..great for girls watching their figure
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TLC not tua lan cheow?
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Originally posted by dokono:got other brand?
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see if u can get it in sg or not -
sounds reasonable hahaOriginally posted by FireIce:TLC not tua lan cheow?
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yes, i mentioned 2 exes. 100 exes? what business is it of yours? are you trying to be rude? or insulting?Originally posted by dokono:You mentioned 2 exes right? Or you had 100 more exes you did not mention?
For the first one, I don't think spending too much is necessary. Getting to know each other better so it's too much. And what a joke, he actually paid for you so fast after coming out of the fitting room, is he so happy just to please you? Like trying too hard to suck up ?
For the second one, I don't know why you two broke up. But since broken up, just move on. Seems like they still can't forget you because, maybe you look like Lin Zhiling, I think.
doko
spending too much? what is too much? it is a relative term. he has the money and the purpose of him working hard is to pamper himself and the people he loves. he loves what i was wearing and i found it too ex so i told him not nice, i looked too fat in it and i dun want it. so he quickly paid for it so that he can see me wear it in future. Suck up? dont be too shallow.
As for the previous ex. Looks is not everything, kid. Have you been in a real relationship of 5 years where the gal was willing to do so much for you and you screwed it? if not, who are you to say? btw, he is very eligible and smart. you think he doesnt know what he is doing, only you do?
Lastly, i have to tell you, dont be rude. Watch your mouth. -
No, no. not juz not.Originally posted by alexkusu:Just wondering, what does he likes?
Dont tell me sex. That is sooo cliche -
There are many more things that a man is worried to tell. That includes the present.Originally posted by browniebaobao:huh? -
what issit then?Originally posted by blu_sky:No, no. not juz not.
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Things including hobbies, joining him in his lifestyle and accomodating his habits, abtaining from what he doesnt like.Originally posted by alexkusu:what issit then? cosplay?
Enjoy what he enjoys, value what he values, and sacrifices. That was the key to him. -
Hey relax, relax.. I was just in a joking mood and did not expect to think otherwise, or worse rude.Originally posted by blu_sky:yes, i mentioned 2 exes. 100 exes? what business is it of yours? are you trying to be rude? or insulting?
spending too much? what is too much? it is a relative term. he has the money and the purpose of him working hard is to pamper himself and the people he loves. he loves what i was wearing and i found it too ex so i told him not nice, i looked too fat in it and i dun want it. so he quickly paid for it so that he can see me wear it in future. Suck up? dont be too shallow.
As for the previous ex. Looks is not everything, kid. Have you been in a real relationship of 5 years where the gal was willing to do so much for you and you screwed it? if not, who are you to say? btw, he is very eligible and smart. you think he doesnt know what he is doing, only you do?
Lastly, i have to tell you, dont be rude. Watch your mouth.
Don't get too angry. This is supposed to be a friendly forum. The 100 exes was supposed to be a joke. Don't get too angry over it ok? We don't come here to get personal.
You asked why and I gave you the opinions though they were too straightforward.
And if you don't like it, it's ok.
Relax. It's the past already.
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agreedOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:3) Be interesting. Be interested in life, people, places. And I think once you are interested in life, you become interesting to people, and intriguing to your partner too.
-think- yeah.