Why Men Leave Women They Like or Love
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Ah I tot something seemed personal in this thread ...Originally posted by M©+square:I faced it, that's why i am able to type my personal experience out today.
Need a listening ear ... I'm always here...
I don't know much about r/s but then I am always a good friend...
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Thanks!
This topic is somehow personal.
Men don't leave girls for no reason, or because 'they are not that into you'.
There are always good reasons why they leave. Even if it crushes or difficult to swallow. Reasons are still reasons.
Girls - Don't give up looking for your guy whom you could spend your life with. But remember, when things goes wrong.
Don't do finger pointing. There is always something to look at when you're facing the mirror. Improve!
Cheers -
Take care Ben...Originally posted by M©+square: Thanks!
This topic is somehow personal.
Men don't leave girls for no reason, or because 'they are not that into you'.
There are always good reasons why they leave. Even if it crushes or difficult to swallow. Reasons are still reasons.
Girls - Don't give up looking for your guy whom you could spend your life with. But remember, when things goes wrong.
Don't do finger pointing. There is always something to look at when you're facing the mirror. Improve!
Cheers
On closer read, I see the points you made. Its true, I had discussed these things with my husband. He's also told me the same... r/s is hard ... I am still learning ... -
I count myself lucky when my ex can still speak fondly of me and remain friends.
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Tough question..Originally posted by M©+square:What is your perception on
1) Sex only
2) Love only
3) Love and Sex
1) Both are together purely for physical intimacy? No strings attached.
2) If there's love, sex is not the main thing ba. I dun think a man would leave a woman juz bcos she's not willing to do it if he really loves her.
3) Perhaps many people perceive this as a 'healthy relationship'. Some people believe that love and sex comes as a package. But I think sex only comes into the picture if both are really sure that they love and trust each other.
I know u will correct me de.
Actually I suddenly ask this question because I watched the 9pm show on channel 8 last night..
chen shu chen had an affair with a woman even tho he's married. The woman really love him, and did not ask for much in return, juz hoping that he will visit her maybe once a year. But after sex, he heartlessly said that they have made a mistake, and knowing that it's a mistake, they should not continue. Then he said sorry he cannot commit to her. And he really left her behind.
I think he's selfish and irresponsible. The woman trusted and love him. But he left just like that. Well it's true that he cannot commit to her because he's married. But since he knows he cannot commit to her, why start? And when things has reached that stage, then he said that it's a mistake? Did he love her?
20, 30 years later they met again. And he told her that they are good friends. She even bore him a son. Just good friends?
sorry i think im getting a bit carried away.
Maturity as in?Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:if a man really wants to commit himself to a relationship, he doesnt need his lover to keep breathing down his neck. And for most guys, the tedency to commit is higher as maturity sets in.
if the person's heart is nt there in the first place, what's there to catch?
no sex? b4 or after marriage. rejection or incapability? it really depends on individuals...nt all guys wld react the same.
What I mean here is before marriage, rejection and not incapability.
I know what you mean.Originally posted by choco B:I don't wanna make it seem like an excuse.
But men do really perceive sex differently from women. You might never understand it but I think at some point acceptance is necessary.
A man who loves a woman will be able to compromise or change his sexual needs, if required, out of concern for his girl. But that doesn't mean he will totally lose it.
And it's not for nothing that the easiest way to tell if something's wrong with your man is through a change in his libido.
So to answer ur question, sex is not everything but it's not an unimportant Nothing either.
I know man perceive sex differently as woman.
That's why the question... coz I dun understand what a man really thinks.
Simi lah...Originally posted by M©+square:Until bbb come to terms with her values and ideals.
otherwise, she will just be ever asking for something which she would reject at end state.
In other words. She will always be in the seeking 'an answer' process.
Something which i observe.
How you know I would reject leh?
I think there's nothing wrong in asking a question ba?
So would you please enlighten me?
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orh, ok, noted.
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Yes... Always so easily a dilemma, I could have sworn I've been through it myself.... Except maybe that I might have been more 'calm' or if you like to put it.... 'Emotionless'... About things...Originally posted by M©+square:Precisely why the struggle, i faced.
Between facing it and braving through.
OR
Ending it, but it seemed like i do not have the confidence or making out an excuse for myself to run away.
Between continually holding her by my side though i know it's going to end(i'm just borrowing time)
OR
Let her go and support her in her growth.
Between Love that i yearn
and
The life she wish to live, which i cannot/do not have the capacity to fulfil with her.
Between Real Facts
and
Hope
All these might also have seemed to be a coward perspective.
Which to me, is a struggle. I never intent to throw in the towel without trying. But at the same time, it is the best solution after 5years...
Such a thin fine line in between that though you thought you could have seen it so clearly... It just so easily blurs your vision while you're standing even so calm within it....
2 sides to a coin, 1 way it shall end.... Sometimes either side the coin falls on... It's just a different 'damn'....? -
Originally posted by M©+square: Thanks!
This topic is somehow personal.
Men don't leave girls for no reason, or because 'they are not that into you'.
There are always good reasons why they leave. Even if it crushes or difficult to swallow. Reasons are still reasons.
Girls - Don't give up looking for your guy whom you could spend your life with. But remember, when things goes wrong.
Don't do finger pointing. There is always something to look at when you're facing the mirror. Improve!
Cheers
yup very good reasons