wAt |s Marr|age t0 u?
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as abv......
pour in ur opinions nw........ 
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Originally posted by Venus:as abv...... pour in ur opinions nw........ Marriage is like a fine wine, as it ages it just gets better
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Marriage is like a box of chocolates..
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>pengz<Originally posted by Yunhaier: Marriage is like a fine wine, as it ages it just gets better
Yun..... i wan ur opinions nt copycat opinions........
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Ok here it goes, (Its going to be long):Originally posted by Venus:>pengz<
Yun..... i wan ur opinions nt copycat opinions........
Marriage is like taking your last bus - both of you made the bus together and chose a bus driver yourself; the world belongs to only you and your partner. The drivers is the direction where your relation goes. Before marriage, your relation is already unstable and marriage still continues: If simply means that you chose a blur driver to be your driver, bringing you round and round the road, aimlessly.
Every marriage has their own conflicts, some almost non-existing, others regular. It is like driving into a area where rain is heavy. The raindrops pelt upon the bus like bullets, hurting the bus - your relationship. Gradually, both will become cold. Well It can be solve if both hug each other and go through the storm - well, bodily would made coldness better isn't it? (Couple sticking together in tough times will make the burden less heavy on each other)
When rains gets unbearable heavy, it cracks an opening in the bus roof. Blame in on the material used in making the last bus - (pre-martial marriage, weak foundation, etc etc - are all risk factor of these).
Well, so what happens when the bus is leaking? Many couples always avoid in doing anything because it is such a small hole. But as the heavy rain persist - their find that the bus is choking with water. This relationship (bus) can be saved, when the both of them work together to repair the hole. If only one is repairing, it takes a zillion years to fix and by then, the bus would already be flooded and sink, killing this relationship.
Although the both of them has fixed the damage - there are still water in the bus (Referring to the aftermath of sad, sorrow, pathetic situations) - the ordeal is not over! Both couple must work together to drain the water out of the bus, if not it will always remain there. (Referring past feelings, resentment, hatred etc). If nobody makes the effort to drain the water - there will be a test of will power to stay in a bus together with dirty water. Most probably either one of them will ask to get down the bus.
When divorce take place - both chose to get down from the bus and walk back to the place where they made their bus (Back to square one, single again). The wife found a coming bus and board it (Third party in another person's relation) and disappear.Finally the ex-husband reach back there and build another bus with another lady - he now learn and chose better material - however he build it with haste. (Entering marriage on wrong basis, too fast, differential 3 aspect needs, etc)
When the bus goes out - and the heavy rain - the entire roof was ripped off by the gale and the bus was destroyed in less than a minute.
'What? Then you mean you have to walk back to the building point again?'
He decide that they had enough - walk foward, instead. (People who gave up having a marriage).
Alone eh?
Adapted from Yunnie's book of CloUdiSm.
Cheers -
marriage
was instituted in Paradise when man was in innocence (Gen. 2:18-24). Here we
have its original charter, which was confirmed by our Lord, as the basis on
which all regulations are to be framed (Matt. 19:4, 5). It is evident that
monogamy was the original law of marriage (Matt. 19:5; 1 Cor. 6:16). This law
was violated in after times, when corrupt usages began to be introduced (Gen.
4:19; 6:2). We meet with the prevalence of polygamy and concubinage in the
patriarchal age (Gen. 16:1-4; 22:21-24; 28:8, 9; 29:23-30, etc.). Polygamy was
acknowledged in the Mosaic law and made the basis of legislation, and continued
to be practised all down through the period of Jewish histroy to the Captivity,
after which there is no instance of it on record. It seems to have been the
practice from the beginning for fathers to select wives for their sons (Gen.
24:3; 38:6). Sometimes also proposals were initiated by the father of the
maiden (Ex. 2:21). The brothers of the maiden were also sometimes consulted
(Gen. 24:51; 34:11), but her own consent was not required. The young man was
bound to give a price to the father of the maiden (31:15; 34:12; Ex. 22:16, 17;
1 Sam. 18:23, 25; Ruth 4:10; Hos. 3:2) On these patriarchal customs the Mosaic
law made no change. In the pre-Mosaic times, when the proposals were accepted
and the marriage price given, the bridegroom could come at once and take away
his bride to his own house (Gen. 24:63-67). But in general the marriage was
celebrated by a feast in the house of the bride's parents, to which all friends
were invited (29:22, 27); and on the day of the marriage the bride, concealed
under a thick veil, was conducted to her future husband's home. Our Lord
corrected many false notions then existing on the subject of marriage (Matt.
22:23-30), and placed it as a divine institution on the highest grounds. The
apostles state clearly and enforce the nuptial duties of husband and wife (Eph.
5:22-33; Col. 3:18, 19; 1 Pet. 3:1-7). Marriage is said to be "honourable"
(Heb. 13:4), and the prohibition of it is noted as one of the marks of
degenerate times (1 Tim. 4:3). The marriage relation is used to represent the
union between God and his people (Isa. 54:5; Jer. 3:1-14; Hos. 2:9, 20). In the
New Testament the same figure is employed in representing the love of Christ to
his saints (Eph. 5:25-27). The Church of the redeemed is the "Bride, the Lamb's
wife" (Rev. 19:7-9).
Source: Easton's 1897 Bible Dictionary -
a piece of paper
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A union between two persons having the customary but usually not the legal force of marriage.
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well done folks!
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WEll said... yun.. i like your BUS thingOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Ok here it goes, (Its going to be long):
Marriage is like taking your last bus - both of you made the bus together and chose a bus driver yourself; the world belongs to only you and your partner. The drivers is the direction where your relation goes. Before marriage, your relation is already unstable and marriage still continues: If simply means that you chose a blur driver to be your driver, bringing you round and round the road, aimlessly.
Every marriage has their own conflicts, some almost non-existing, others regular. It is like driving into a area where rain is heavy. The raindrops pelt upon the bus like bullets, hurting the bus - your relationship. Gradually, both will become cold. Well It can be solve if both hug each other and go through the storm - well, bodily would made coldness better isn't it? (Couple sticking together in tough times will make the burden less heavy on each other)
When rains gets unbearable heavy, it cracks an opening in the bus roof. Blame in on the material used in making the last bus - (pre-martial marriage, weak foundation, etc etc - are all risk factor of these).
Well, so what happens when the bus is leaking. Many couples always avoid in doing anything because it is such a small hole. But as the heavy rain persist - their find that the bus is choking with water. This relationship (bus) can be saved, when the both of them work together to repair the hole. If only one is repairing, it takes a zillion years to fix and by then, the bus would already be flooded and sink, killing this relationship.
Although the both of them has fixed the damage - there are still water in the bus (Referring to the aftermath of sad, sorrow, pathetic situations) - the ordeal is not over! Both couple must work together to drain the water out of the bus, if not it will always remain there. (Referring past feelings, resentment, hatred etc). If nobody makes the effort to drain the water - there will be a test of will power to stay in a bus together with dirty water. Most probably either one of them will ask to get down the bus.
When divorce take place - both chose to get down from the bus and walk back to the place where they made their bus (Back to square one, single again). The wife found a coming bus and board it (Third party in another person's relation) and disappear.Finally the ex-husband reach back there and build another bus with another lady - he now learn and chose better material - however he build it with haste. (Entering marriage on wrong basis, too fast, differential 3 aspect needs, etc)
When the bus goes out - and the heavy rain - the entire roof was ripped off by the gale and the bus was destroyed in less than a minute.
'What? Then you mean you have to walk back to the building point again?'
He decide that they had enough - walk foward, instead. (People who gave up having a marriage).
Alone eh?
Adapted from Yunnie's book of CloUdiSm.
Cheers -
marriage?
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marriage is magical...
it is not easy to find someone who loves u truly and whom u love in return..
it is the union of unions
it is God sent -
not ready to comment... coz i haven't gone to the first stage of anything yetOriginally posted by Venus:-_-" -
to me......
"The easiest part of marriage is falling in love and walking down the aisle. The most difficult part of marriage is 10 years later when the problems have ensued and issues have come about and you still find love. Marriage is not about the beginning, marriage is about the process and still being able to love through all things."
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from some email thingie... =P
5 Golden rules for finding your life partner by Rabbi Dov Heller,A
> >relationships coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the
> >prospects of long-term marital success. When it comes to making the
> >decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a
mistake.
> >Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that
Many are
> >making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms.Right!
> >
> >
> >If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting
> >married,they'll say: "We're in love". I believe this is the #1
mistake
> >people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be
based
> >on love. Though this may sound Not politically correct, there's a
profound
> >truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married.Rather, love
is the
> >result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right,
then the
> >love will come.
> >
> >Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on Love
alone.
> >You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself
if
> >you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
> >
> >
> >QUESTION #1:
> >* Do we share a common life purpose?
> >
> >Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married
for 20
> >or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you
Plan to
> >do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?
> >
> >You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a
common
> >life purpose.
> >
> >Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you
can grow
> >apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To
make a
> >marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life bottom
line-and
> >marry someone who Wants the same thing.
> >
> >
> >QUESTION #2:
> >* Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this
> >person?
> >
> >This question goes to the core of the quality of your
relationship.Feeling
> >safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis
of
> >having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get
> >"punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.
A
> >colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom
you feel
> >afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.
> >
> >Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally
Safe
> >with the person you plan to marry.
> >
> >
> >QUESTION #3:
> >* Is he/she a mensch?
> >
> >A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can
You
> >test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on
a
> >regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A
teacher of
> >mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be
good
> >and do the right thing."
> >
> >So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their
time? Is
> >this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not
someone
> >whose top priority is character refinement.
> >
> >There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who
are
> >dedicated to personal growth, and people who are dedicated to
seeking
> >comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put
personal
> >comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before
> >walking down the aisle.
> >
> >
> >QUESTION #4:
> >* How does he/she treat other people?
> >
> >The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is The
> >ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability togive another
person
> >pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others
or are
> >they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this,
think
> >about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have
to be
> >nice to, such as a waiters, bus boy, Taxi driver, etc. How do they
treat
> >parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If
they
> >don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything,
you
> >cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you--who can't do
nearly as
> >much for them!
> >
> >You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will
eventually
> >treat you poorly as well.
> >
> >
> >QUESTION #5:
> >* Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after
we're
> >married?
> >
> >Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the
> >intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a
colleague
> >of Mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after
marriage
> >... for the worse!"
> >
> >
> >If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then
you are
> >not ready to marry them.
> >
> >
> >CONCLUSION
> >In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and
treacherous.The key
> >is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your
heart.It
> >pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure
to ask
> >questions that will help you get to the key issues.falling in love
is a
> >great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you
don't
> >want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your
homework.
> >
> > -
Subject: Love and
Marriage
Do take some time to read this. I think it's quite true. Hope we won't
be like this.
Is that the right attitude?? Or is this what we're all guilty of?
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One day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is love? How can I find it?"
His teacher answered, "There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk
forward without turning back, and pick only one stalk. If you find the most
magnificent stalk, then you have found love."
Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with empty hands,
having picked nothing.
His teacher asked, "Why did you not pick any stalk?"
Plato answered, "Because I could only pick once, and yet I could not
turn back. I did find the most magnificent stalk, but did not know if
there were any better ones ahead, so I did not pick it.
As I walked futher, the stalks that I saw were not as good as the
earlier one, so I did not pick any in the end. His teacher then said, "And
that is love."
On another day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is marriage? How can I
find it?"
His teacher answered, "There is a thriving forest in front. Walk
forward without turning back, and chop down only one tree. If you find the
tallest tree, then you have found marriage." Plato walked forward, and
before
long, he returned with a tree. The tree was not thriving, and it was not
tall either. It was only an ordinary tree.
His teacher asked, "Why did you chop down such an ordinary tree?"
Plato answered, "Because of my previous experience. I walked halfway
through the forest, but returned with empty hands. This time, I saw
this tree, and I felt that it was not bad, so I chopped it down and
brought it back.
"I did not want to miss the opportunity."
His teacher then said, "And that is marriage." -
Nice story.. i like!!!!1Originally posted by p0ppy:Subject: Love and
Marriage
Do take some time to read this. I think it's quite true. Hope we won't
be like this.
Is that the right attitude?? Or is this what we're all guilty of?
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One day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is love? How can I find it?"
His teacher answered, "There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk
forward without turning back, and pick only one stalk. If you find the most
magnificent stalk, then you have found love."
Plato walked forward, and before long, he returned with empty hands,
having picked nothing.
His teacher asked, "Why did you not pick any stalk?"
Plato answered, "Because I could only pick once, and yet I could not
turn back. I did find the most magnificent stalk, but did not know if
there were any better ones ahead, so I did not pick it.
As I walked futher, the stalks that I saw were not as good as the
earlier one, so I did not pick any in the end. His teacher then said, "And
that is love."
On another day, Plato asked his teacher, "What is marriage? How can I
find it?"
His teacher answered, "There is a thriving forest in front. Walk
forward without turning back, and chop down only one tree. If you find the
tallest tree, then you have found marriage." Plato walked forward, and
before
long, he returned with a tree. The tree was not thriving, and it was not
tall either. It was only an ordinary tree.
His teacher asked, "Why did you chop down such an ordinary tree?"
Plato answered, "Because of my previous experience. I walked halfway
through the forest, but returned with empty hands. This time, I saw
this tree, and I felt that it was not bad, so I chopped it down and
brought it back.
"I did not want to miss the opportunity."
His teacher then said, "And that is marriage." -
Marriage?
To me, it's like a new phase of life, a brand new process whereby one find that he/she not longer needs to walk the surface of this cold Earth alone anymore.
A seemingly easily confused stage for most to interpret that the progress of two's relation has already reached upon an utmost summit of stability.
To me however, it marks the beginning of yet another dimension of willing commitment.
The event, as a symbolic representation of an entirely new level of realization, that in one's heart, there now lives another, who is much more important to you than your own life.
Juz as the loyaly to one's country, the filial obligation to one's parent's, marriage is another additon to such similar death transending priorities.
And hence as the birds do, when one ends, the other fades as well. -
luno leh...haben found mi trye love yet...
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marriage is...
*ahem*
i love you~
u love me~
we r happy family~ wif a great big hug and a kiss from me to you~
won't you say u love me too~~~~